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Screw Valentine’s Day

It’s that time of year again….  Cards, flowers, candy and jewelry are flying off the shelves of every store at an alarming rate. And I, perpetually single, am told once again that I’m bitter. I’m not bitter. Seriously. My distaste for valentine’s day has nothing to do with my marital status.

In my opinion, valentine’s day is just another day. In the past, when in a committed relationship, I always felt pressured to do something bigger and better than the previous year or holiday, regardless of cost or lack of time. Valentine’s Day is stressful. It’s also a HUGE boost to the gift sector of the economy as people in relationships are guilted into buying anything and everything to woo one’s sweetheart. I’m all for boosting the economy and I’m also not against making your loved ones feel loved. But why can’t you celebrate the wonderful people in your life every day?

February 14th is just a day. There are 364 other days I like to use to honour and love the people in my life.

To my friends and family: I love you all. I don’t need a special day to tell you. I’ll probably tell at least one of you once a day that I love you until the end of time and that’s never going to stop.


Sleep keeps escaping me…

Not Sleeping
I can’t seem to get some REST!

I am now on day 10 of less then 5 hrs of sleep a night, and I think I may be on the brink of losing my mind. Who thought that missing a few hours a night of sleep would make such a drastic difference in the enjoyment of my day to day life?! 

I suffer from insomnia and have tried everything I can think or or have researched (except narcotic sleep aids, I don’t trust those). I’m now grasping at straws for a solution to my sleep deprivation. 

That being said, and I don’t know why I didn’t think of this sooner, I am going to document my sleepless escapades on this blog. (I apologize in advance for any kind of crazy talk that should issue from my mouth and/or fingers before I get some rest. It’s been a LONG week and a half and my patience has almost completely disintegrated). 

So I’m going to start out my post today by explaining my sleepless history.  When I was pregnant with my daughter and in my 2nd trimester, I stopped sleeping a full night. I went from sleeping constantly (napping whenever I could, sleeping until noon or later on weekends, and going to bed somewhat early almost every night… I loved sleep) and requiring 7-9 hrs of sleep a night to 6-7 hrs of sleep a night. That was fine. I felt so amazing during the middle 3 months of my pregnancy that I honestly didn’t care. I had enough energy, so no harm no foul, right? WRONG! In my final trimester, the lack of sleep was starting to get to me. I was tired all the time (that could have just been the pregnancy talking) and never felt like I was getting enough rest. Finally, my lovely little girl was born and I was one of those blessed parents who’s child slept through the night. The only problem was that I DIDN’T SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT. I could not bring myself to go to bed before 1 am. It just didn’t happen. There was the occasional night where I would crash on the couch and wake up feeling like death because I had slept too much, but for the most part I started sleeping less and less at night. I am now, 3 1/2 hrs later, down to being able to comfortably function on 4-6 hrs of sleep a night without batting an eye. I generally have a really good sleep every 2 weeks where I will get anywhere from 6-10 hrs of sleep but I haven’t had one of these blissful sleeps since before Christmas (that’s right, about a month). Not only am I getting less sleep then usual, my sleep quality is also, for some strange reason, suffering. 

I have tried every herbal supplement there is to offer, every old wive’s tale (my favorite is a glass of wine or two before bed) and talked to my Doctor on numerous occasions (she’s now decided that it may be time to attempt a prescribed sleep aid, which I am totally against). Nothing has worked. Nothing has even fased 


Win an Asus Netbook! Help me out!!

ASUS EeePC 1005HA-PU1X-BK 10.1-Inch Black Netbook

Alright everyone, please click on the link below. http://styleguidance.com and http://styleguidance.com/12days

You can win an ASUS Eee PC 1005HA-PU1X-BK 10.1-Inch Black Netbook. I have an ASUS EeePC netbook and I LOVE IT! If i win, I will be gifting this to my mom, as her laptop is on it’s last legs. There are still a few prizes left in the Style Guidance’s 12 Days of Style give away, culminating in a MAC BOOK! If i win the Macbook (which I will die of happiness if I do), I’m keeping it. BUT I will find some awesome prize to give away via my Blog. Follow me and I’ll keep you posted :)


CBC Books, PICK ME! My pitch for a Sony e-Reader

Although I’m axiously awaiting Christmas Morning so I can (re-)open my Kindle, I’d love to test out the Sony e-Reader. Not only do I just want to test it, I want to gift it to my Mom. My mom is my rock in this world and is also a book lover. I’m constantly lending her books and she has a stack now sitting on one of her side tables, ready to read.

My suggestion for this year’s book? Ragged Company by Richard Wagamese. A great human story about a group of homeless people who find half a pack of cigarettes, $60 and a winning lottery ticket for worth $13.5 million dollars. No one is able to claim the prize as they lack proper ID. The enlist the help of a wayward Journalist named Granite to help them change their lives forever.

This is also a LondonReads pick for this year (As well as Canada Read’s pick Good To A Fault and The Outlander). I’ve just started to read it and am now completely enthrawled in this foreign life lingering outside my safe little world.

-W


The Dating Dillema

Maybe have discussed it but few have actually provided any kind of concrete answers. Single parents, such as myself, have an issue that no other married parent or single individual has to deal with: Dating with children.

I can’t speak for all single parents, but I can definitely speak for myself when I tell you I sometimes feel guilty when I date someone. Maybe I’m over thinking, or maybe there really IS a reason to feel some sort of guilt when spending time with someone new.

After dating a few different guys, I’ve come up with a few concerns. (Again, maybe this is just me but I doubt it).

  1. Time Away from the kid(s)
    No matter how great of a parent you are, you will ALWAYS feel guilty leaving you child or children for any reason that doesn’t directly benefit them. Dating almost seems selfish…
  2. When to introduce a new partner to the family
    When I first started dating my ex, there’s the whole trepidation of meeting the parents. Will dad like him? Will mom value the same qualities I do? Now I have to worry about my little one in the mix as well. Is it too early? Will they think that I’m trying to replace their father? Will this jeopardize this new relationship? What if my new partner isn’t as accepting as he led on about me having kids?
  3. Trust
    This is a big one for me. It’s usually not an issue of me trusting the other person with me, it’s with trusting that person with my daughter. I have yet to introduce someone that I’m dating to my daughter. She knows most of my friends and some of them are male, but never a “boyfriend”.  There is also the question of how MUCH should I trust this new person with my kid. Every week I see a story about some person hurting a child for one reason or another. How long does it take to truly know someone enough to let them in?

No matter what the situation, dating with kid(s) is always going to be difficult. The only thing we can do is talk. Communicate your issues, questions and concerns with your partner and keep the dialog going. Not every guy is going to be comfortable dating a woman with a child or two, but some are. Some are thrilled with the prospect of helping to raise a child, regardless or parentage. Keep honest and realistic with your partner (or prospective partner). Relationships are about working together and with a third (or forth) party involved, communication becomes that much more important.

-W


Changes All Around!

I’ve just moved into my new blogging “home” here at WordPress and it doesn’t seem half bad. Nice new digs, a new design and a few toys to play with :)

I’m looking forward to getting into the blogging world more and more. My new year’s resolution for 2010 is to blog weekly. We’ll see how this goes! To see my old posts from my old blog, please visit http://adventuresinsinglemommyland.blogspot.com

xo


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